Comments on: Secret #5: Committing to Self-Focus

By: Flug USA

Flug USA — Mon, 11 May 2009 16:03:07 +0000

hi
Thank you for sharing that with us.
A self care day is exactly what I need. About the question what things I do to practice self-care, unfortunately I don’ practice self-care.
I can describe my weekend as a process of reloading energy for the next week.
I just have rest at home, don’t go out in order not to get tired as every day.
Which means I don’t practice things I like such as shopping or going out to restaurant with friends. In fact I have 2 jobs and I ‘m always trying to save money to afford holiday 2 times a year.
keep up blogging

By: Kathy Crabbe - Soul Reader

Kathy Crabbe - Soul Reader — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 22:07:26 +0000

Hey Jen, Sounds like you had a pretty wise mom!

In answer to your questions, “How do you commit to self-focus? What things do you do to practice self-care?”

I let myself sleep in and read and write in bed, sometimes til early afternoon, every day! It’s my favorite place to dream, be creative and loll about

By: Amy Crawley

Amy Crawley — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 18:25:06 +0000

Hi Jenn,

I, too, have tried to designate Fridays as my day to things other than create; or to create what I want versus filling orders. I think scheduling self-care time is very important. But it is also important to accept that sometimes life happens and we have to deal with schedule changes. That has happened to me this past week as we deal with a family health issue. In this situation I’m trying to be present and accept what is and let the days flow from there.

Thanks for sharing your experience.

-Amy

By: carin.c

carin.c — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 15:04:54 +0000

My self care days are typically Sunday and I usually get some sort of art done. But last Sunday I spent the entire day catching up on bills and paperwork that I had been ignoring and this very Sunday morning here I sit reading and commenting on everyone’s blogs. And although I enjoy that, you just reminded me that if I don’t go use the rest of my time to tak care of “myself” I am going to resent missing it 2 weeks in a row… so now I am getting OFF the computer! Thank you!

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 13:21:37 +0000

I hadn’t thought about this much recently until I was tagged to identify five things I did to keep myself mentally healthy and my life in balance. Here are the five I came up with: http://differenceayearmakes.wordpress.com/2009/02/06/tagged/

It was an enlightening experince.

By: megg

megg — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 12:04:29 +0000

Hmmm… I don’t – not properly. I tend to feel things and see things so intensely sometimes that I go into numb periods of tv watching and chocolate eating to not feel anything. I TELL myself it is self care, but I know it isn’t. One day a week sounds like bliss – I am glad that you didn’t follow your own rules that once – it reminded you of how important it is!!

By: Kara aka Mother Henna

Kara aka Mother Henna — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 23:59:20 +0000

This is why I call all of my life a practice Some days, like the one you describe here, I just forget and totally end up stomping and hungry and thinking, “ooooooh i hate everything!” I’ve begun saying outloud to myself — when I catch what is finally going on — “Kara, Course Correct!” Sometimes if I can’t say it outloud for whatever reason, I’ll write it down to myself. It’s a good cue to start coming back to center… So glad you got your self care day back this week!! Think I’ll head off to the bookstore today myself!
miracles,
k-

By: rowena

rowena — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 16:59:04 +0000

I have been trying to do nothing. For a few minutes, at least. It’s really, really hard to not pack my day as full as it can, double, triple, quadruple tasking. I have so little time to myself, that I am always trying to do at least two things at once.

Sometimes if one of those things is purposefully mindless, and purposefully not meant to further my career and fuel my creativity it is a little recharge. Like reading a magazine while my kids play in the garden.

That’s about as good as I’ve gotten in the self care department. Working on it.

By: Blisschick

Blisschick — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 16:24:30 +0000

What a very cool (and well balanced!) mother you had.

I know I am big time neglecting any sort of self-care when I start telling my partner I need a vacation, I need to “go away.” I HATE traveling so this is a HUGE clue.

But then I think about how I spend the majority of my time doing the things that bring me fulfillment, things I love, but I know that we need breaks even from that. My confusion comes here: if we are doing what we love, what do we do to relax!? I’m still trying to figure that out…

By: D

Sat, 07 Feb 2009 12:12:59 +0000

I too get grumpy if I don’t have time to make something and/or exercise. Those are my two needs when it comes to self care.

And, aren’t Moms so wise.